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What’s the Hardest Thing About Marriage?

I went to a small get-together last week to celebrate my ring bearer’s first communion and someone looking to get married asked me this question – what would you say is the hardest thing about marriage? That question took me aback because I never really thought about it.

It really got me thinking like what’s the hardest thing about marriage. The simple answer is having someone in your space at all times. Granted, every marriage has its own issues but for the most part, the consensus is that the things that would annoy you the most about your spouse are dumb things like not making the bed, not washing the dishes, placing a dirty plate on the counter and not the sink, etc.

If you have ever prayed, “make me more like you Jesus,” you are in for treat. Having a spouse and two toddlers in the house during quarantine is enough to drive anyone crazy. A lot of people are filing for divorce from their spouse because of the stress and anxiety from everything going on in the world, coupled with being in each other’s space 24/7, plus the stress of working full time and dealing with kids.

To be completely transparent, sometimes my husband annoys the hell out of me and I’m sure he will tell you the same thing about me. And I’m sure every married person will tell you the same thing about their spouse. The key is learning how to quickly forgive each other’s offenses (Matthew 18:22), so you are not going to bed angry - still working on this part (Ephesians 4: 26). The other key not keeping a record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5) because that eventually leads to resentment and bitterness.

Marriage is not easy…it requires you to daily die to yourself; it calls you to serve, to compromise and to love unconditionally. If you are not willing to do any of these things, then don’t get married. At the end of the day, there’s nothing like having someone to share this thing called life with, someone to make important decisions with and to share life’s moments and laughter with.

Here are the verses I reference in this post:

“Love….It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5

“Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” – Matthew 18: 21-22

"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” – Ephesians 4:26

About My Outfit:

Please note that this is a sponsored post but the opinions expressed are my own.

One of my favorite fall colors is olive green. There’s just something about it that I’m just drawn to. In my next post, I’m going to show you how I styled these olive green pants a few more different ways. In this post, I’m pairing them with a white floral sheer blouse from Femme Luxe Finery. This top is completely sheer so I wore it with spaghetti straps inside.

I love the contrast of the white with the olive green. I love the puff sleeves and the floral pattern on this top; my only recommendation would be to get a size up. Based on the pictures on the site, I thought a small would fit me comfortably, but I could barely fit into it so definitely get a size up for more comfort.

As the weather is a bit bipolar these days and some days are cooler than others, I topped it off with an army fatigue jacket from Forever21.

I’m wearing Fashion Nova jeans. It’s my first time wearing jeans from them and I must admit, I can see what the hype is all about. They are stretchy and super comfortable. I paired them with my my most coveted sandals from PrivilegedShoes. These sandals are absolutely gorgeous. They are true to size and the only thing I’d note is that they are very narrow, so if you have wide feet, they will not be very comfortable for you.

Thank you all for stopping by!