Unlearning the Pattern of Being Mean to Yourself

What we say to ourselves is as significant as what we say to others. Have you ever wondered why we are so hard and mean on ourselves and yet are easily forgiving towards others? I usually come across people that constantly call themselves out of their names. Others find it hard to accept a compliment when its given to them because they don’t think they deserve it.

If it’s unacceptable for someone else to be mean to you and call you out of our name, why would it be acceptable for you to do it to yourself?

I’m always reminded of the power of the tongue and its ability to speak life or death. We are taught to speak life over our kids and not negativity because there’s power in the spoken word.

If you constantly call your kids stupid, they will grow up believing that they are stupid. Same applies to you - if you constantly call yourself any name, you will eventually start believing it.

The next time you make a mistake and are tempted to call yourself out of your name, take a look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are loved, you are worth it, and you will not allow the enemy to make you feel condemned.

Here are a few verses for you to ponder on:

Proverbs 18:21 – “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Matthew 12:37 – “For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned."
Proverbs 13:3 – “He who guards his mouth protects his life, but the one who opens his lips invites his own ruin.”
Proverbs 21:23 – “He who guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from distress.”