The Power of Saying No!
““We must say “no” to what, in our heart, we don’t want. We must say “no” to doing things out of obligation, thereby cheating those important to us of the purest expression of our love. We must say “no” to treating ourselves, our health, our needs as not as important as someone else’s. We must say “no.”
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One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the years is mastering the ability to say no to people. Most times, we make commitments to things that we don’t really want to do because we are afraid to say no and hurt people’s feelings.
I’m probably busier now than I have ever been in my life. Between my family, full time job, my business, the foundation, and everything else in between, I’ve learnt to say no to A LOT of things, not because they are not important but because my time is scarce and everything that I commit to has to make sense. Before I had kids, I took for granted the fact that I could just get up and go. Now, if I need to go somewhere, I need a month notice LOL..
Often, our hesitant to say no stems from us feeling like it will make us look selfish or come across as if we don’t care about the person, but the two are not mutually exclusive. You are simply saying no to the activity not the person. A key point to keep in mind is weighing the priority of the request of the person making it. Let’s say someone invites you to their birthday party and you are not that close to me, you are not obligated to go. On the other hand, if it’s someone very close to you, you make sacrifices to make it to that event.
Weighing priorities, inconvenience to you and the importance of the person making the request, will help you make better decisions about requests that require your absolute yes and those that require your absolute no.
About My Outfit:
Monway was the first day of fall but thank the heavens, it’s still warm here in New York. This is the calm before the storm (winter). I shot this look a few weeks ago and the most interesting thig about this outfit is the pearl necklace that is the absolute statement piece. It takes a simple peplum top or dress and instantly elevates it to glam. You can purchase one here from Amore Vanity.
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