Why Entitlement is Stifling Your Blessings
“ One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much.”
I’ve been watching 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After, a show that follows couples that fell in love with someone from another country. One of them is American and he/she has to bring the other person to the US on a 90 day visa. If you watch the show, you know about Kalani (American) and Asuelo (Samoan). Here’s some background info for you: Asuelo has two kids, a stay-at-home wife, works part-time and makes about $1000 a month.
He has an estranged relationship with his parents because every time he talks to them, all they want is money. He went to visit his mom at his half-sister’s house in Washington and she made a statement that was very troubling to my soul. She kept complaining that he doesn’t send them enough money since he got married. She wanted $1000. With tears in his eyes, he said he didn’t have that money because he has to take care of his family and if he gives her the money, his kids will starve. His mother had the audacity to look at him and say she didn’t care if his kids starved, all she wanted was money, money, money. I was so shocked, I wanted to punch her through the tv lol.
There is a lot of misconception with extended families outside the US that think that somehow if you live in the US, you must have a lot of money to freely give away. That is not the case for anyone that I know. The portrayal of the US in movies and videos is that of the super-rich and wealthy. They don’t show the run-down neighborhoods, the homeless people on the streets and the subways, the people that need to work 2-3 jobs just to support their families, etc. Most people don’t realize that the cost of living is so much higher in the US. Everyone works so hard with no free time for anything.
One thing that baffles me the most about certain people is that they expect you to give them more than you can afford. If I give you a $100 out of the kindness of my heart, and you think it’s not enough (even if I had a million dollars), then you deserve zero dollars. If I can get paid $10 an hour, that’s 10 hours I had to work, so I can be able to give you $100. The law of gratefulness is that if you can’t be thankful for the small things, you will not be thankful for the big things. How can God trust you with more when he can’t trust you with a little?
This issue of entitlement is something that we can experience even in our relationships whether it’s with our parents, our spouses, siblings, friends, etc. The people we love do not owe us anything, whatever they choose to do for us, is out of the kindness of their hearts.
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